2. Understand what doesn’t work for you.
Ask yourself this question – what is your manager actually doing wrong? When you think about it, there are probably only a few core obstacles which are making the relationship difficult. Understanding what these obstacles are will be the first step to removing them.
In some cases it may be you that needs to change. Adapting your expectations or learning to accommodate your managers’ habits could make your life much easier. In other cases you may need to tell your manager exactly what is causing a problem for you, and what you would like them to do to correct the issue.
Sometimes your manager probably feels they can’t do anything right. When in fact, it might just be a few things they do that is really putting the relationship on edge. Write yourself a list of what your manager is doing that really doesn’t work for you – and place them in a list of most annoying first.
Getting a handle on the main ‘barriers’ to the relationship is the first step to removing them. In some cases you may need to be a little more tolerant or avoid certain situations, and in other cases you may need to tell your manager exactly what is causing an issue for you.
Either way, ticking off those triggers is bound to make your long term relationship stronger.